How To Help Your Toddler Develop Relationships


The daycare center is where your toddler has its first interaction with people outside his/her family. Helping your child build relationships with you, his/her daycare teachers and fellow toddlers is a vital role of a parent. Through this, toddlers enhance their capability relating and understanding other people and help them discover their selves. A toddler who established a useful skill in relating to other people tends to become optimistic about everything that they do and enjoys the company of others. They can show empathy and sympathy and can be responsive to the needs of the people around them. Below are some tips how to nurture relationship-building skills of toddlers.

Respect Toddler’s Feelings

Accepting your child’s feelings creates higher chances that he/she will always share sentiments and personal feelings to you as he/she grows. It is essential for them to express their own identity so that later in their lives, they will have the full confidence of trusting themselves in every decision they made. Parents should minimize making fun of child’s feelings, but their role as child educators must not be compromised. Child’s anger can be converted into something that is acceptable such as tossing a pillow on the floor, running in the yard or drawing an angry picture. It is also important to let your child know your feelings and to make him/her see how to cope up with it.

Let Your Toddler Play WithOther Kids


Experience is the best way to help your child build relationships with other people. In the daycare center, they need to experience to share food with other children, respect each other turns, enjoy the company of friends and resolve conflicts. These also open the opportunity for you to connect with other parents as your children are playing with each other. Parents must be present every time the child is with his/her age group because sometimes they need help in learning and practicing their friendship skills. 

Explore Feelings Through Games


Using puppets to show child’s emotions such as anger and fear that is often manifested during separation from his/her parents, sharing a toy to a playmate, or adjusting to a new member in a family. This will be a reasonable basis for them to relate their feelings and emotions on how they will handle it. Listen to your child’s words during play because it can be a means of assessing their inner thoughts and feelings. Play with your child and act everyday situations for you to explain well the reasons behind every event that happened or might happen to them. 

Show Interest

Parents’ attention is mostly what he/she wants from us. To deliver it to them, we must show a sincere desire for everything that they are doing such as in playing or during their snacks. Giving complementary words is one way of showing interest. Another way to show interest is merely accompanying them going to the daycare center and checking them time to time. 

Toddlers who develop good relationship skills most likely have successful relationships in the future. They can quickly make friends and build a lasting romantic relationship. As parents, let us not take this for granted. 


Child Psychiatrists Support Bringing Children To Daycare Centers


According to child psychiatrists, children’s growth and development is not only supported by their families but will also entail contribution and help from the external environment. The very first formal environment that a child enters is the daycare center. There are many things children learn from preschool, things that home life setting may not be able to provide. Better than anywhere else sending a child to a daycare center is the most viable option to prepare a young child for future academic, emotional and social skills. 

What a child can benefit from daycare while mommy and daddy are out to work.

Daycare Is The Best Preparation For Kindergarten

A child is introduced to a structured setting with teachers whom they see as authority figures who will kindly teach them with proper guidance. In a high-quality child care centers, teachers and caregiver providers create programs and use subtle methods for young children to develop and learn. A child who attended pre-school has gained necessary knowledge and skills required to become ready for kindergarten. They quickly get comfortable and adapt well to a classroom setting. Daycare kids get a smoother transition to kindergarten.


Development Of Social And Emotional Skills

Daycare provides an opportunity for a child to deal with different people outside the family. They learn to get along with other children their age and create a friendship. They are taught specific values like sharing and cooperation with different preschoolers. A child’s sense of identity and personality emerge as they work and play with their friends. While they are interacting, learning process already takes place as they react and learn how to control their feelings and emotions. Learning to resolve conflicts among their peers is essential to healthy emotional development.

In preschool, a child builds a trusting relationship with adults outside their home. In the center, they see their teachers as the person to follow and obey as they give directions and guidance to the children. Discipline is developed when they learn how to wait for their turn, politeness to listen when someone is speaking, and raising a hand when they need to ask or say something.

Develops Cognitive Skills

In pre-school, children master language skills during playtime, when they sing, at storytelling time, or during academic activities. Most children learn first how to write their names at daycare centers.  Basic knowledge of alphabets and phonetics are the skills necessary to learn how to read adequately in kindergarten.

Cognitive skills develop during activities that challenge a child curiosity to observe and investigate, to have inquisitive minds and to solve problems independently. Simple exercises can turn into an exciting opportunity to learn.


Promotes Necessary Skills In Math

Pre-math skillsare learned like counting with basic numbers, proper sequence, and sorting. Basic arithmetic skills like addition and subtraction are already introduced to help children with computation.

Enhancement Of Motor Skills

Playtime activities are great ways to improve motor skills, coordination and balance. While they enjoy running, climb and swing, there is a boost in motor skills of a child. Plus, their levels of physical activity ensure that they obtain exercise and boost their energy levels.

 A high-quality pre-school is where your child is taken care of while they learn, develop and becomes confident as they make their way to kindergarten.


Helping Your Child Adapt To Daycare: Therapy On Separation Anxiety

Helping your child adapt to daycare can be a challenge, especially when a child has been solely taken care of by parents and primary caregiver for the past few years. The transition can be a significant change for your child and adjustment can be a complicated process.


There are steps that you can take to adjust unfamiliar routines and make it an easier one. By doing these steps, it can also serve as a therapy for children to prevent undergoing too much stress and anxiety when they are left in daycare facilities. 

Visit The Daycare Center With Your Child In Advance. If your child is sensitive to changes, this approach can help the child feel comfortable and at ease by gradually introducing him to the new place. Short, frequent visits can help the child become familiar with the new provider and with the other children. Make sure to communicate with the provider about the child’s daily requirement, specific behaviors to watch out for, and health concerns. Consistency in feeding and sleeping pattern is crucial. A similar structure of routine can make the child feel secure.


Bring A Comfort Item From Home. Familiar objects at home like a cuddly stuffed toy or a blanket can serve as soothers to your child. Favorite pieces can comfort a child when she is anxious while you are away. Sometimes a child’s separation anxiety peaks at drop-off. Here’s an excellent tip to address endless crying spells: You can leave them something from you that they can keep. Ask your child to take care of it while you are away. You can leave them your scarf, your photo or anything unusual that will remind them of you. Your lipstick on their hand when you say goodbye has a familiar scent attached to it.


Make Sure That Your Child Is Well-Rested with adequate sleep before her first day at daycare. Prepare an energy-boosting breakfast. On the way to the center, tell her how fun it will be for school and friends that she can meet there. Arrive at least several minutes ahead of time so he/she can settle and get too busy with activity and is not likely to protest when you leave.

Do Not Break Your Child’s Sense Of Trust. Cheerfully say goodbye and do not sneak out when your child isn’t looking. To leave secretly will create a more difficult problem, it may also raise a level of separation anxiety.

Stay A While in the anteroom and allow the child time to feel comfortable with the environment, with other kids and with her teacher. When you think that they are adjusting and are ready for you to leave them, you can go provided that this has been discussed with them ahead of time.

On Pick Up Time Greet Your Child Happy. Tell him that he did a good job and you are very proud of him.


It takes time for younger children to adapt to a new child care setting. Expect for a reasonable amount of adjusting time. Stay calm. Be more understanding and don’t reprimand for their struggles with separation. Don’t be frustrated. They will be back to their happy selves in time.


However, if your child is experiencing intense separation anxiety after several weeks, you might need to re-evaluate the daycare setting.

How You Can Help Your Child with Managing Anxiety


It’s one thing if you are recognizing the signs of anxiety in yourself, but something else entirely if you sense that you are seeing it in your own child. Stressing out over something simple every now and then is obviously not a cause for concern, but when you find that persistent nerves are interfering with their academics and social life, it may be time to step in, but what can you do?


Simple Strategies  


As mentioned by The Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA),  there are simple and indirect ways to go about raising a child with anxiety problems. In most times, getting psychiatric support may not be necessary if you feel confident that you and your family can help your child get through this. Some discreet yet helpful strategies include:

  • Being attentive to their feelings
  • Staying calm when they aren’t
  • Reinforce any accomplishment through recognition and praise
  • Avoid punishment for exhibiting anxious behavior or bad situations that were a result of their anxiety
  • Be flexible with their schedule in case of an episode, but maintain a normal routine overall
  • Modify your expectations for them during stressful situations

At their age, it is important that your child feels supported by family as it is the main environment that they interact with and learn from, but if anxiety worsens, it must be understood that it may not have anything to do with your parenting techniques. 

Other factors that influence the intensity of a child’s anxiety are the type of anxiety that they are suffering from (generalized, panic, social, etc.), how they have learned to react to it, and the exact cause of the condition itself as if pertains to your child. 

Getting Help


For a more thorough investigation of your child’s anxieties, it may be wise to seek professional help. According to ADAA, those that received professional guidance found that it was successful in helping children maintain their anxiety. 

In some cases, cognitive-behavioral therapy is enough. This type of therapy teaches children techniques that they can use to reduce anxiety, which is something that can benefit them throughout their life. These techniques usually involve a change in their thinking process that they can control when the situation calls for it.

For instance, when in a stressful situation, your child will be able to identify which thoughts are negative and unrealistic and learn to focus primarily on the positive and realistic ones. 

There may be times when medication may be required, but it will generally be used alongside therapy sessions, especially for children between the ages 7-17. Whether these prescriptions will be short or long-term will depend on how serious their symptoms are and how they have been affected by previous treatments

The more commonly used medication for these types of treatments is selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors which are effective, but may cause side effects such as headaches, stomachaches and nausea, and difficulty sleeping.

Therapeutic Practices


You have many options of therapeutic practices to choose from, but it is best to look for one that focuses on the relationship between parent and child such as family sessions. 

One option is Horizon Family Solutions, which provide as both educators and consultants as they are specifically created for the progress of a child or teenager, regardless of their complications. 

You may also choose BetterHelp, which also allows for child or family sessions as they find the right psychiatrist for your situation and is flexible with your schedule. 

Whichever you choose, ensure it focuses on family support. 

Spoilt for Choice: The New Pressure of Finding Your Future


From an early age, I grew up watching the popular 90’s American comedy Frasier almost every morning before school as my mum would usually have it on in the background. Immediately I was fascinated by the profession of the main character Frasier Crane, a radio talk show psychologist. Even though it is probably not the best source of Psychology facts or information, I was instantly hooked, and I knew I too wanted to study Psychology. I bought second-hand textbooks from Car boot sales (or Flea markets for any Americans reading this) and immersed myself in the fascinating topic. At the age of 15 I chose to study it at college (Late high school for you Americans again, 16-18 years) where I obtained top marks and later took it at University and graduated with the highest possible grade.   


After all of this, you would assume that my career path lacked any ambiguity regarding “What do I want to do in life?”. In fact, it is quite the opposite. I undeniably love the subject but currently have no real ambitions of pursuing it as a career for a number of reasons. Mainly because this career path requires an overwhelming plethora of qualifications, which will take a lot of time while simultaneously accumulating a lot of student debt. Moreover, it hinders my ability to do the one thing I love more than anything, travel! As a result, at 24 my idea about what career path I want to take changes daily, constantly zigzagging between ideas.   


The pressure of choosing a career  


There can be an incredible amount of pressure for teenagers and young adults when it comes to making decisions like what to study and whether pursuing further education is the right choice. Parents, friends and teachers can be a source of help or added pressure, and these influences are only the tip of the iceberg. It can be hard processing all the factors, what do I enjoy doing, is there a demand for this, how much money will I earn and what if I want to do something else in the future? Many years ago, the necessity to make these decisions weren’t as common because social mobility hardly existed. If you were born into a working-class family, it’s likely that you were going to stay there. If your father was a miner, there is a good chance you will be, too. Therefore, due to all of these new options in our modern world, young people take career decisions too early, it can be a stressful time for young people.


Making the right choice  


Arriving at the right decision may be a long and stressful process, but it can also be very rewarding if you discover something you love or successful choose to pursue your passion. Even though I have no intentions of pursuing a career in Psychology at this current time, I thoroughly enjoyed the subject and I honestly believe I can attribute most of my success to the fact that I am passionate about it. Here are some tips on how to make the right choices when faced with this mammoth task.   


Talents, Abilities and Skills  


When making these decisions it’s advantageous to consider what you are naturally good at. If you happen to have a natural talent for maths it may be worth considering some careers which require this type of methodical thinking such as Maths, Computing or Science. The same can be said for all other subjects. If you are naturally good at something, it may give you an advantage when applying for universities or when competing in the modern workplace. The same can be said for any previous work or subject experience you have. With that being said, what you’re naturally good at may not be something you enjoy, and if you don’t enjoy your work I can almost guarantee it will affect your productivity and job fulfilment. In other words, don’t consider this the only factor.   


Social and economic factors  


This has less to do with who you are and more to do with the environment you will be entering. Today’s modern technology is forever moving forward with rapid pace and so is  HYPERLINK “”its HYPERLINK “” ability to replace humans with machines. For example, it is highly likely that we will see many jobs like lorry drivers  HYPERLINK “”phased HYPERLINK “” out with the use of  HYPERLINK “”self-driving HYPERLINK “” vehicles. So when it comes to making your choice of what to study it is important to consider the demand for workers in this field in the foreseeable future.   


It’s never too late to change career paths  


Even though all these choices may seem stressful, it is important to understand that this freedom to choose last for a lot more than just your teens. When I graduated University, I accepted a job working in Sales for an IT technology company. I know nothing about IT, and even after working there for a year and a half I still know nothing about IT. What I did learn is that IT really doesn’t interest me (despite my efforts to change this) and now I know. I may not know what I want to do in life, however, because of this experience I have now narrowed down my options and ruled out IT.  


Relax! This is supposed to be enjoyable.   


Being told to relaxed when faced with daunting decisions may seem difficult but the truth is you are on a mission to find something that every day makes you want to get out of bed and go do what you love. Even though it might seem like a difficult mission at times, you have the opportunity to explore so many options and try so many things. This is a path to discovering your passions, your skills and essentially a route to discovering more about yourself and what makes you tick.   


One of the most influential moments during my degree was when I was introduced to Alan Watts. If you are not familiar with the work of Alan Watts, I would highly recommend checking him out. More importantly, my lecturer showed us this video shortly before we were all due to graduate and it really did have a lasting influence. If I can leave you with one piece of advice, it is to have no fear. Try new things, study new topics, find jobs you like, quit jobs you don’t and always, always pursue your passion because that will keep you going through the best of times and the worst of times. I may not know what I want to do for the rest of my life, but I have found a great passion for writing and working as a freelance writer. Tomorrow I may want to be a chief, or perhaps a tightrope walker in a travelling circus. But whatever, you decide to do pursue your dream and make sure you are happy.   


“If you say that getting the money is the most important thing, you’ll spend your life completely wasting your time. You’ll be doing things you don’t like doing in order to go on living, that is to go on doing thing you don’t like doing, which is stupid.” – Alan Watts 

Young people take career decisions too early, it can be a stressful time for young people.

Options for Childcare: Nanny Vs. Relatives


When searching for childcare options, parents tend to look at ways to keep their children home first. From the time, a baby is born until they start Kindergarten is the only time that children are truly free of responsibility.  Many parents want them to spend these first years relaxed and learning fundamentals.  They want to allow their children to stay at home if possible.  This is normal, especially with the world the way it is today.  By nature, children under the age of 6 are more vulnerable than children over the age of 6.  The most common options for childcare at home is to hire a nanny or have a relative watch them.  


Nanny – Average Cost $500-$700 Per Week


Hiring a nanny means that you are hiring a professional to provide care for your child when you are not at home.  This is typically someone that is unrelated to the family.  Before hiring a nanny, parents should make sure that they do research on the person that they are hiring.  They should make sure that they are considering both the background and the history of the person they are hiring.   A nanny provides total care for children while the parents are away, often in the home.  It is critical that parents ensure the nanny they are hiring is qualified, experienced, and has the patience and knowledge that is needed for the parents to trust their children are safe.  Here are some of the advantages and disadvantages to hiring a nanny.


When parents hire a nanny, they are hiring a professional that can provide their child with more individualized childcare than what is provided in a facility.  The caregiver can pay more attention to the child and therefore there is less of a chance of something being missed throughout the course of the day.  Accidents are also less likely.  Finding childcare in-home is normally a more convenient option that out-of-home childcare options.  Nannies also tend to be more flexible than facilities.  Hiring a nanny also provides children with more familiarity because they stay in settings that are familiar to them.  


The biggest disadvantage to hiring a nanny is that it is the most expensive option for childcare. Nanny’s also do not typically have a supervisor that they must answer to, meaning that there is less accountability.  The nanny or the parents must arrange for the children to socialize with other children, whereas this is built-in to facility childcare options.  There is also a lot of paperwork involved in legally hiring a nanny.  When a nanny becomes sick, quits unexpectedly, or is unavailable to come to work, parents can find themselves in a bind.  


Relative Care – Average Cost Varies


Relative care is typically the first option for low-income and many middle-income level families.  Relative care is when parents leave their children with a family member while they are at work.  Relative care is typically free.  There are times, however, where families choose to pay relatives for providing childcare.  In these instances, payment can be made in numerous ways.  An individual can choose to pay a relative with money, by doing chores for them, or in several other ways.  There are both advantages and disadvantages to having a relative provide childcare.


The biggest advantage to relative care is that someone that already cares for the child is providing care for the child.  Parents are leaving their children with someone that they already trust and that already has a personal interest in keeping the child safe.  Relative caregivers can provide a higher level of individualized attention.  Relatives also typically share the same or similar morals and/or values as the core family itself.  This means that children are typically held to the same standards that they are expected to live up to at home.  Relative childcare is also typically the cheapest option.  


One of the biggest disadvantages to relative childcare is that establishing a working relationship with a relative is difficult.  There are also times where opinions on child rearing may vary and it may be more difficult to discuss this with family members.  Someone must arrange times for the children to play with others their age.  Relatives also do not have to report to a supervisor or regulatory board, making them less accountable.  Older relatives also may have a difficult time providing quality care for younger children.


Bringing it Together


Childcare that is provided in the home allows children to remain in settings that they know.  Each option has its advantages and disadvantages.  At the end of the day, what matters is the option that fits you and your family.




Common Signs of a Poorly Run Childcare Facility


Finding the right Childcare Center is a difficult task for every parent.  The task is especially difficult for first-time parents who have never been through the process before.  The task of looking for the right Childcare facility can be quickly overwhelming.  Parents experience a lot of stress and anxiety over if the Childcare facility they are looking at is right for their child and if their children will be safe while they are at work.  Here are some signs of a poorly run Childcare facility that will help parents know when to run.

No Licensure

There are only rare situations in which a Daycare does not have to be licensed.  Typically, Daycares are required to be licensed to hold the facility accountable for the safety of the children that they provide care for.  There is a minimum requirement for licensure set by the state and the Daycare is required to meet these standards.  If you do not see a license posted on the wall, inquire about whether the facility is licensed.  If they say they are, ask to see a copy of it.  Most states have a list of licensed facilities for the state.  Accredited facilities are also good options.  It is not required for a facility to be accredited, however, it does show initiative and shows that the daycare is held to a higher standard of accountability.

Over Classroom Ratios


There are times that you walk in and find a teacher in a classroom full of children.  You may not think anything of it as first.  It happens at every business.  Someone gets sick or hurt and the facility is quickly understaffed.  However, having too many children in a class with not enough supervision is a safety threat.  There are ratios put in place to ensure the safety of the children.  Make sure that you know the required ratios for the provider and when you are touring the facility check that they are keeping to those ratios.


As you tour the facility pay attention to the cleanliness of the facility.  A clean facility shows that they take pride in their work.  Also, unclean facilities pose a safety risk to the child.  It poses a risk to their health as well.  Keep in mind that facilities are full of kids and are going to get messy from time to time.  However, if they facility is continuously unclean, then you should worry.  Also, if there is no clear schedule or structure you should worry.  With that many children, having an organization is critical in maintaining safety.  There are also different skills and developmental goals that should be worked on while your child is at the facility.  Not having a clear schedule indicates that these skills are not a priority at the facility.

Lack of Training


Daycare staff should be trained.  You want to make sure that the staff has the necessary certifications needed to work with children and that background checks are being conducted to ensure the safety of the child.  You also want to know how often staff is training.  No one is ever perfect and there is always room for improvement.  Find out how often training occurs and what types of training take place.  If there is no training whatsoever, you should be concerned.

Lack of Communication


One of the biggest red flags that you can find is a lack of communication between you and the daycare.  If there is a time of the day you are told you cannot come by, you should worry.  Your child is going to be in that facility and you should be able to come to no matter what time of day it is.  They may say they prefer you not to come during nap time, but if they forbid it you should wonder why.  When your child is in the facility, you should also receive some type of report on your child at regular intervals and the staff should be communicating with you when you pick-up and/or drop-off your child.  If they are not, you should be concerned.



Childcare Facilities: The Division of Classrooms and Why It Matters


Finding the right daycare facility is a complicated and frustrating task.  It is essential to know how the classrooms are divided.  There are many different things that a parent should look at when it comes to the division of classrooms.  It is important because the way a childcare classroom is divided has a direct impact on the quality of the childcare facility.  When there are too many children under the supervision of just one person, it put the worker at a higher risk of becoming overwhelmed and frustrated, which can become a risk to the children.  There can also be a risk to the children based on the age groups being put together.  For example, placing two-year-old children in the class with infants can increase the risk of harm to the children. 

Not only will the workers quickly become overwhelmed with the varying needs, but they are unable to pay attention to a group of children every single second.  With the varying ages of needs, abilities, and behaviors, this could put a child more at risk.  You also want to consider how the division of classroom settings vary when a child has special needs.  Here are some of the specific things you should look for and how it can affect the quality of care being provided to your child.




One way that Preschools and Daycares divide their classrooms is by the ages of the children.  First off, Preschools and Daycares are not the same things.  Preschool is aimed at the older early childhood group and the goal is to teach them skills necessary to start school.   Daycares provide care for children while their caregivers are at work.  Daycares typically take children from infancy up to school age.  There are daycares that will provide care for older children during the summer months.  Most age groups are divided based on the age and skill set of the child at that age.  Generally, infants are in a room together.  This is normally from birth up to 12 months (or less).  Some daycares move children from the infant room when they begin to walk.  As children begin to develop skills, they require a higher level of attention.  To keep the infants safe, toddlers typically have their own room.  Some daycares will put children 12- 24 months in a room together.  Then there will be a 2-year-old room, a 3-year-old room, and a 4-year-old room.  

Children are divided based on age so that their individual developmental needs can be met based on their age and to protect the safety of the children.  There are times where children will stay in the infant room until 18 months and 18 months-3 will be in the same room.  The important thing is to look at the teacher to child ratio, the age and skills of the child, and whether the staff is meeting the needs of the children.




Classrooms are also divided based on the number of children in the class.  Ratios vary from one location to the next.  It is important to know the ratios required by law for your setting.  For example, in some states, the infant teacher ratio is 1:5.  If there are more infants in the room, another teacher is required to ensure the children are safe.  There are also square foot ratios.  A child care classroom is required to be so many square feet per child and the facility is required to have a specific number of bathrooms per child.  This is to ensure that the needs of the children are being met, the teachers do not become overwhelmed, and the children are safe.  It is critical that these ratios are being followed.  If you find out that a childcare setting is not following these ratios it is important for you to consider the increased risk to the child.


Special Needs


Finally, if you have a child with special needs, it is important to understand that federal law mandates they are mainstreamed in the less restrictive environment.  Placing these children in separate classrooms is against the law and is discrimination.  Find out how the special needs of your child affect the required ratios and make sure the facility is willing to accommodate your child.



Helping Children Increase Their Self-Esteem

Naturally children are shy and timid, especially if they encounter new situations or events and are being introduced to new acquaintances. At times, we cannot force them to present and introduce themselves because they would find it very awkward. They would only distance from what is important. This article will explore and introduce some helpful tips to make children become more open and to develop self-esteem.


Self-Esteem in Children

Erick Erickson indicated that children usually develop self-esteem between the ages of 1 and 3. This is the ‘toddler years’, as the specialists call it, and they are also beginning to develop their skills by doing things on their own. Whenever they accomplish something like picking up their toys and returning them in the box, we always give them a positive comment like “good job!” or “well done!”. This is where they feel encouraged to do more good things and allow their self-confidence to develop.

Ways to Increase Self-Esteem

Allow children to decide for themselves. Before you disagree with this point, please be advised that we are referring to a reasonable set of options pre-selected by you as parents. Examples for this would be asking them to select their own clothes to wear, what breakfast item would they like to eat, etc. This manner of presenting choices will empower them and the little freedom you provide will enhance their self-esteem.

Perfection is not always good. It’s important for parents to inculcate in their children that it’s acceptable to commit mistakes and errors. Children will feel that they are accepted as they are and there will be no pressure to accomplish tasks and being worried that they will be reprimanded in the end. 


Start them young in doing work. This is not to enslave or subject the child to abuse by giving them household chores. Assign age-appropriate tasks or chores and instruct the value of getting it done appropriately. The feeling of confidence and being competent when the task is done is developed in the child, thus enhancing his self-esteem. Moreover, this is a life-learning experience that will reflect the child’s work ethics in the future.

Avoid labelling. We love to call our children “princess”, or “my sweet boy”. That’s alright and acceptable. What is not appropriate is to call them with negative names or speaking to them sarcastically. This will certainly create an impact on how they view themselves. 

Take a break. As parents, it understandable that we sometimes lose our grounds and get angry. Take a break for a while. Get out of the room and breath in deeply. Why? Because you may say things that you might regret later. The negative words that we say to our children will be buried in their subconscious minds and will affect their self-esteem in the future.

Never compare with other kids or siblings. Don’t attempt to say “why can’t you be like your brother?” or “Mary is faster in finishing her homework than you.” These are derogatory remarks and can lower down their self-esteem. What you can do is appreciate your child’s uniqueness and abilities. 



Building your child’s self-esteem starts from the home. Parents are the initial ‘attitude formers’, henceforth, it is our responsibility as parents to develop it while they are young. Making sure that children have a positive self-esteem, they will be able to handle anything when they are already outside the home environment. This is very beneficial in their everyday life dealings and experiences.